Why Do I Feel Exposed on Phone Calls?
I'm sure you've experienced it too - that uneasy feeling when someone asks to video call or even just talk on the phone. You start to sweat, your heart rate increases, and all of a sudden, your mind is racing with worst-case scenarios. "What if they see me in my PJs?", "What if I have spinach stuck between my teeth?", "What if our conversation goes south?!" It's like you're standing naked on the phone, exposed to the world.
But here's the thing - it's not actually about being physically naked. It's about feeling emotionally vulnerable. And let me tell you, as a Gen-Z expert, I've seen my fair share of awkward phone calls. But why do we feel this way? Why do we assume that our safety perception resets just because we're on the phone?
- It's about control. When we're face-to-face with someone, we have more control over the situation. We can adjust our body language, change the subject, or even excuse ourselves if things get uncomfortable. But on a phone call, it's like we're at the mercy of the other person - and that lack of control makes us feel exposed.
- We're worried about judgment. Let's face it, we all have our quirks and flaws. And when someone is talking to us over the phone, we can't help but think they might be judging us for every little thing - from our tone of voice to our laugh. It's like we're under a microscope.
- It's about intimacy. Phone calls require a level of intimacy that makes us feel uneasy. We have to be open and honest, sharing our thoughts and feelings with someone who is literally miles away. It's like we're giving them permission to see into our souls.
But here's the thing - those feelings of exposure are normal. And it's okay to feel that way. In fact, it's a sign that you're willing to be vulnerable and open with someone. So, how can we overcome this uneasiness? Here are some tips:
- Take a few deep breaths. Before the call, take a few moments to calm down and collect your thoughts.
- Set boundaries. Let the other person know what makes you comfortable and uncomfortable. It's okay to say "can we please focus on this topic?" or "I'd rather not talk about that right now."
- Practice self-care. Remember that it's okay to take a step back if you're feeling overwhelmed. Take a break, go for a walk, do some yoga - whatever makes you feel better.
- Communicate openly. If you're feeling uncomfortable or uneasy during the call, speak up! Let the other person know how you're feeling and work together to find a solution.
Safety perception resets? Gone. Emotional vulnerability? Still present - but in a good way. So next time someone asks to video call or talk on the phone, take a deep breath, set those boundaries, and remember that it's okay to be a little exposed. Your emotional safety net will thank you.