Why Do I Feel Like I'm Being Evaluated on Calls?
Hey, Gen-Z! Let's talk about something that might be making you feel like you're under a microscope: judgment anxiety on calls. You know the feeling - your heart starts racing, your mind goes blank, and you're convinced that everything you say is being scrutinized to death.
But here's the thing: it's not actually happening. At least, not in the way you think it is. So, what's going on? And more importantly, how can you stop feeling like you're being evaluated on calls?
The Truth Behind Judgment Anxiety
First off, let's talk about cognitive defusion. This fancy term refers to the tendency for our brains to get stuck in thought patterns that aren't necessarily based in reality. In other words, your brain is like a supercomputer processing information, and sometimes it can get a little... carried away.
- Cognitive defusion is when you start making assumptions about what others are thinking or feeling.
- You might think, "They're judging me right now," but in reality, they're probably just trying to have a conversation.
The thing is, our brains are wired to focus on the negative. It's like we're constantly scanning for potential threats (real or perceived). And when it comes to calls, this can manifest as judgment anxiety - the feeling that everyone is watching you and waiting for you to slip up.
Why You Need to Stop Overthinking
So, why do we need to stop overthinking? Well, besides the fact that it's exhausting, overthinking can actually make us more anxious. It's like your brain is trying to prepare for every possible worst-case scenario, which can be overwhelming.
- When you're on a call, focus on the present moment - not what might happen in the future or what others think of you.
- Try to let go of assumptions and just... breathe.
And here's the thing: most people aren't actually paying that much attention to your every word. They're probably too busy thinking about their own stuff or trying not to mess up themselves.
The Power of Mindfulness
Mindfulness is all about being present in the moment and letting go of distractions (like judgment anxiety). By focusing on your breath, your body, and your surroundings, you can calm those racing thoughts and feel more grounded.
- Before a call, take a few deep breaths and try to relax your shoulders.
- Pay attention to your physical sensations - are you tense or relaxed?
And when the call is over? Take another few deep breaths and congratulate yourself on making it through. You did it! (Even if you didn't think so at the time.)
Conclusion: You're Not Being Evaluated (Mostly)
In conclusion, judgment anxiety on calls is mostly just a product of our brains getting carried away with negative thoughts. By recognizing this and practicing mindfulness, you can calm those racing thoughts and feel more confident in your interactions.
So the next time you're on a call and start feeling like you're being evaluated, take a deep breath, let go of assumptions, and remember that most people are too busy thinking about themselves to be paying attention to you. You got this!